How not to pay attention to noisy neighbors. I am annoyed loud sounds, or why I do not carry noise. Abstraction: what it is for what it is necessary

Noisy neighbors are Beach families, especially in urban apartments. Bed, equivalent notorious "roads and fools". It should be noted that the quality of the roads in the country improves, reducing the statistics of an accident, but the degree of the question - how to stop nervous because of noisy neighbors is growing.

And what are we can tell about each other about? Friday's obviously sad evening, when you fall asleep anxious, as if before the exam. Or about the Saturday morning, into which we can wake up the gentle singing of a neighboring drill. Another dream to sleep - collapsed! Tell about the night when the whirlwinds with the ceiling, "Havimatl" flies in the head and fall asleep only to the dawn. Parents of lovely, two-meter teenagers left for the cottage. Better drill in the morning ...

You can recall the noisy neighbors that scandals at various hours and days of the week, notifying about the time and place of regular marital treasures and betrayals. You can listen once again. But drunk voices, wearing the wall of the years ... Unbearable!

"Noisy neighbors? Do not worry and nervous "

They tell you friends and relatives. "What are you really?! Well go and express everything you think! Scare them with police or fines! Collect the team, write a letter ... you just need to stop nervous! Yes, grab this boy and wind his ears! At work, it happens, experience for the experience, I want to calm down at least at home! Where is it not at home to strengthen the nervous system?! "

So the neighbors are noisy ...

It is possible to stop worrying, if it has called to turn on the drill at half past night to hang the shelf. Or is it worth a loud one in the night of Alfred Schnitka or late Paganini and go to walk the watch in a blizzard?! NOTE. The Council of the girlfriend or psychologist for some reason also does not help. Do you still know any ways? Tried? And as a result? That and it is noisy neighbors! ... probably it is not treated?

How to stop nervous because of noisy neighbors?! Saw, Shura, saw !!!

Stop nervous due to noisy neighbors perhaps. System-vector psychology Yuri Burlan will help to learn this. According to it, people are born with certain groups of mental properties - vectors.

As the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan says, understanding what is behind the desires and properties of one or another person, it is completely easy to say a lot about him. For example, determine its type of thinking, the goal and meaning of life and even sexuality. Reading a person, as an open book, interact with him in such a way that it was comfortable first of all to us.

For example, you see a person with an anal vector. This is at its essence the owner of the family: golden hands, everything in the house does himself. Yes, slowly, the repair lasts for years, but it is high quality and forever. Perfectionist. Meticulous and reasonable. Family, house - holy. The meanings of life are also - the value of the past, help to comrades, respect and honor. Mom is the most important person in life. By the way, he most likely an avid fisherman. And in childhood, probably collectable brands, badges or postcards.

That's it in these keys and it is worth negotiating with him. Shallow hand in respect. To say that your mother (or children) is now bothering and they need silence. I will understand and stop drilling. If you talk about fishing at the meeting, raise the topic about the return of old textbooks to the schools to children, or the importance of the quality of work, experience, then make friends. For a person with an anal vector, to fulfill any request of a comrade, a good neighbor (for example, to agree to what the watch is noise) - not a question!

Because of noisy neighbors I will go crazy

There are such people for whom silence is vital. From loud sounds increases hostility towards the world around the world. The work is excited by the or without endless thoughts, the concentration is disturbed and the person is ready at least in the loop, even from the roof to be cigible, just stopped the hubble of noisy neighbors. These are people with a sound vector. They suffer from all over all and while silent, surviving inside the semantic storms.

For the visual vector, emotionally excitable, sometimes at the slightest reason - noisy neighbors can cause panic attacks. The fear of death is their root fear from which numerous phobias grow. Pleep, swinging emotionally, for them - how to breathe. If one of your family is endowed with these features - do not be surprised that it seems to be usual for other everyday problems they are experiencing much more acute. Help them stop worrying, it is really vital for them.

How to negotiate with noisy neighbors

Let's remember your standard "crusade" to top for negotiating.

First, we are no longer just on the platoon, but virtually kipims. We persuade yourself not to be nervous, and they themselves are ready to scream and scream from many hours or even multi-day accumulated anger.

Secondly, trying to restrain the emotions across the edge, are deliberately in claims and insults, stumbling in words and confuse in the sense of their own speech. By this we introduce the interlocutor to the response aggression. Conduct negotiations with a positive result will not work.

Therefore, the rule is first - do not wait long and tolerate. Give yourself a task before the conversation to become calm. The second is to find out who exactly over you (on the side) lives and why regularly violates public order. Third - you need to define systemically - who exactly in front of us, what vector? Who will you negotiate with? For example, if it is a leather - it is necessary to talk in the sense of benefits and law-proceasses.

Instruction

The human auditory device perceives the sounds in the range of 20 to 20,000 hertz. All that over is ultrasound waves fluctuations. In everyday life, it is customary to measure the intensity of sounds in decibels. So-called "Pain threshold" for ear - about 130 decibels.

Irritate hearing, especially at night, can different noise:, fans, various industrial technical devices, construction workers passing transport. According to the standards, the noise level in the afternoon should not exceed 40 decibels, and from 23.00 to 7.00 in the morning - 30. The usual conversation, a quietly inclusive music is about 40-45 decibels.

Inspire from the "unauthorized" noise, alas, problematic: the hum of aircraft, roar, cotton salutes, noise-gam feasts in the neighbors are uncontrollable and unpredictable. However, it is possible to protect yourself from excessive acoustic pressure in a specific noise environment.

Note for yourself: constantly surrounding noise people (for example, in the dwelling) have different. Normal noise is the so-called "air noise": speech, music, television and radio sounds, Lai dogs. "Impact noise" - sounds that arise with the immediate effects of the source of noise on the building structure. "Acoustic noise" is manifested in the form of echo and characteristic of empty premises. Is absorbed by furniture, carpets, other interior objects.

Effectively "air" and "shock" noises can be repayed only by decorating the rooms with soundproofing and noise absorbing materials. The process is costly: sound insulation and ceiling, and walls. Sometimes it is preferable to take care of the sound protection of the floor at the neighbors from above, than to plan work with your ceiling.

Soundproofing properties have such materials: concrete, ceramzite concrete, gypsum. In a number of noise absorbing materials - a plug, plates from basalt wool, other mineral fibrous materials, porous rubber. Due to the high density, it combines the properties and sound insulation, and noise absorption cellular concrete of autoclave hardening. Small air bubbles of the closed structure contained in this material allow it to effectively absorb and extinguish sound waves.

So that the apartment has been quieter, check all possible noise propagation channels from neighbors. These may be the flaws of construction work: poorly sealed openings for laying wires, gaps between the door and the door frame, niches in hard-to-reach places in the bathroom, the design of the ventilation windows. Experts will be prompting which cement solutions and ready-made building mixes are better used to fill emptiness.

Yana, good afternoon!

My letter is based on this letter, which was from a girl with severe sensitivity to sounds, light and smells.

I always had a lot of noise, it was very difficult for me to focus, when the "meaningful" noise is noisy, the "meaningful" noise is essential, and when someone speaks, chatter in a talk show on TV, songs in Russian. Also, I can't fall asleep when noisy, and wake up if some loud sounds are heard. I do not like "background" noise, I have no TV, I turn on the radio or music only when I want to listen to radio or music, in other cases I prefer to spend time in silence (I live alone). This is the preface.

A few years ago, after I graduated from the institute, the parents bought me an apartment in the newly built home. We made some repair, and I moved there. And quite quickly it became clear that the house was built from shit and cardboard - I heard literally everything that happens at the neighbors (later I talked to the construction specialists who knew how this house was built, and they told me that the inner floors in the house were made It is very cheap and, as a result, a very bad technology.) From time to time, noise from the neighbors interfered, but it was tolerant. As long as a few months ago, new neighbors have not entered the apartment, and then my life has just turned into hell.

No, there were not any drug addicts with nightly debaches, non-loud music, settled there. An ordinary family with a child - a child is not a baby, just small. But they are noisy continuously. They talk loudly - so that you can almost disassemble the words, the child is worn around the apartment with loud topotoms and deafening screams, and flies to the floor toys, they have something falls all the time, the furniture is moving, they are often going to companies with friends and Children, and then children wear and yell a crowd. All this lasts until late evening. It is impossible to calmly spend the evening at home after work. After several times there was such a situation - I go to bed, fall asleep, something falls asleep with the neighbors, I wake up, my child jumps over with the top with screams and the child, I wake up again, and after that I can not fall asleep midnight - I just stopped sleeping normally. I have already poured an important exam in two times, because because of the noise, I didn't sleep on the night before, and I barely worked, and I barely worked, because I constantly do not fall out. I just hate these creatures.

That is, the cuckoo I still didn't go completely, and I understand that people are not noisy on purpose to spoil me life, just they live like that - loudly, and it is such a bad confluence that the house is so poorly built. But it does not help with the fact that the quality of my life because of this very much worsened.

I talked with your neighbors about noise, received answers: "Achotakova?" And "Until 11 pm, we have the right." Well, yes, really have. When they were noisy at three o'clock in the morning, I wrote a statement by the district statement, it seems to speak with them, although I don't know exactly - but I don't even know if they were discharged at least a fine. At some point I was psychodula, took a loan, made the ceiling sound insulation in the room. But this did not really help, it was a little bit of the conversations, but did not make anything with a football and a roar, plus the noise was not muffled in the rest of the apartment, and he also comes into the room.

I can't focus on at home, when I am at home, I can not read or study something, because I sit all in tension, waiting for it to be noise (even when quietly), and when the noise is heard, I will pepat me , and I think: "So that you died, creatures!". Go to bed now a challenging problem - shut up the ears with earplugs (and it is uncomfortable with earrings, and with some hurts to sleep, I have already tried a lot), to include "White Noise" to at least somehow muffle the sounds from the neighbors, and then I am another hour Or two I will just lie, unable to fall asleep.

I myself understand that this is a bad situation. I thought even even over to sell this apartment and buy another. In general, if the situation is completely the edge, then why not. But here there are many problems. Buy an apartment in the newly built house is to get a "naked" concrete box without everything, and another million or at least half a million will need to be investing in the repair, and the next five years in such a house will do repair all neighbors, With all hammers due and perforators, and you can also forget about silence too. Buy "secondary" - still you will have to redo the repair, I somehow do not want to live in someone else. Buy a house, so that at all the neighbors, nor from above, neither from the bottom, nor the side - but it is very expensive, there is not enough money from the sale of the apartment. And with all this, at the same time selling his apartment - a pity, you look around for all this lovingly chosen tile, the lamps that I have been looking for for so long, to all sorts of native little things - and to the tears, it is a pity to throw it all. In addition, there is still such a moment. I believe that in such a situation, as I have, when from stress and emotions, I feel bad, it is better not to take for such serious things and deals - it's easy to pour on scammers, do not pay attention to some important point, make stupidity - dangerous, generally.

On the other hand, I also understand that this noise from the neighbors, who is such a big problem for me, someone else could simply not pay any attention to, calmly live and sleep peacefully. I read your posts with envy, Jan, when you write that your cats will jump at night, and you all hear, but at the same time it does not interfere with you. Well, let's say if my cat shared at night, I would bother it, but when it runs like rally streams, it doesn't cause me any irritation, because it "his" noise - and not noise from other people who have to listen Forced, because there is nowhere to go.

In response to the letter I mentioned at the beginning, you write that you can "teach" a brain "Do not hear" a certain noise. What can this be learn if you consciously do this. I think that this in general, it would be useful for me to be useful - at work it is not always quiet, and sometimes you have to sleep in airplanes, trains or hostels, where there are far from perfect silence, in general, many situations where such a skill might be useful . But I live in the province. There are no neurophidbeque schools on our schools here, there are no good psychotherapists, and even on classes with a psychotherapist on Skype I have no money. How to propose to solve this task yourself - I still can not even imagine.

I would really like you to tell your view on this situation, well, and maybe something prompted, because you, Yana, is always a very sensible look at things. Sorry that the letter turned out so long.

Sincerely, N.

Hello!
Yes, I, of course, for learning to live next to the noise, and do not suffer from him. Especially given the fact that the noise of you surrounds, this is a fact, but he is quite harmless. Those. Yes, small children can actually jump like elephants. But a small child, as you yourself said, this is not a crowd of drug addicts. And they will meet you everywhere. It is very difficult to live if every sound bothers you. Somewhere there will be children, and somewhere - tram under the window, city, road, old house with sounds. Burous and nerves do not fight.

Assocatively, yes, you need to somehow go to hear it.

Most importantly - I know for sure that this is possible !!!
I'm not a neurologist, I do not know how to do it consciously. But I know that there is such a mechanism for the body, and it turns on in many situations very well.

For example, among others, tram rails are passing to our house, and once every 10 minutes tram drives around. I don't even hear it, but my mom has these rails right under the window. She no longer hears anything, even in the summer, when sleeping with an open door to the balcony.

I also know people who live very close to the airport, and have long ceased to hear the aircraft flying past. And the trains do not hear people living near the rose. And remember, I wrote a lot of tragic articles about how people for something "hurt"? And do not feel, for example, that their houses smell like cats, or mice, or some kind of adhesive. Or that they themselves smell. And it is necessary to get out of the house for a long time so that Nyuh updated, "and began to feel this smell again.
I somehow read the explanation for this phenomenon. Allegedly we used to react to the fact that from the nature of the BB of us is stitched as "danger." For example, it smells like, this is an important signal, because it can be poisoned. And when the brain registers, that this particular junk smells constantly, but no one is tortured, it turns off the reaction to this "dangerous signal" to once again not nervous.

It seems to me that the rapid of your problem is somewhere in this. You yourself wrote that if our cats ran, it would be "their" noise, and you would otherwise react to it. Correctly task here: try to teach your brain to the fact that neighbors are also "your" noise.

In fact, I do not react to the usual tramp of cats, because I used to have nothing wrong with this. They run around by the same route, and after a number of circles calm down. And I know that this is every time so prohibit, after which everyone falls asleep. Therefore, nothing in me does not pay attention.

I mean that if cats suddenly make some unusual sound, I even wake up !!! Moreover, I wake up and jump, even if the sound is quite quiet, sometimes it's just a rustle, or something. But this is unfamiliar - it is not clear that there is lying, and for whom, and where. Therefore, anxiety is turned on. And I do not notice the usual. Those. The secret here is to somehow persuade your brain to not pay attention to the sounds that you all know.

Generally, I read all kinds of books about the work of the brain, and it is often written in them that the brain (oh, miracle!) It fully understands the human language! This means that some things can literally say! And he will understand! That's right with such words, as we say, he will understand. There are only some small nuances. For example, that the brain allegedly does not perceive the word "not". Therefore, the brain does not need to say "just not to get sick," it can be understood with an accuracy of the opposite. And you have to talk to him, "I'm afraid to get sick" or "I really want to be healthy," something like that. And in general, the appeal to the brain should be formulated short, simply and definitely. Given the fact that he is a very lazy cattle, and for each occasion it is tupit, from laziness.

However, you can try to talk to him! Soothe it (and yourself). Say him "This is not dangerous sounds. It all falls in someone else's apartment. It all happens outside my home. It's all safe for me. I'm in my apartment safe, I feel comfortable and good!"
You can even tremble yourself that your favorite apartment is your fortress, and in general is the best tool from fear. You yourself wrote themselves how you love her, how everyone was chosen for her with love. So you can remind yourself how good you are here. Tell yourself something about your apartment - that the houses are helping. What at home you are brave and calm. (Only without "not", do you remember?) :-))

To be honest - I would have tried myself with literally words to defear at home that you are good there, there is no danger, and nothing to be nervous.

Moreover, try to talk about something positive about those noise that you hear. There is only a child at the top! At the same joy, in fact, that not Alkash, not psycho and not a pack of drug addicts. And the child, alive, cheerful. So healthy. Soon he will grow up and jump less. By the way, if you score all, you will not notice how 10 years will be held in this apartment. And if you and your neighbors will live together, maybe they will happily live over you for another hundred years. And they will not come to replace any much more terrible. And there are not thieves, not bandits, but just some young parents. In short, tell your head all the best about what you hear. And - that this does not represent any danger.

Because we pay attention to something precisely because of this. Because our body sees some kind of danger, and worries.

You can still try to work with your anxiety globally. Psychotherapists say that if you dig up the cause of some injury, often it is already cured for a large percentage! And about this supercillability to the sounds they write that most often the reason there is generally a banal - once in childhood scared very loud sounds. Something unexpectedly clogged, slammed a clapboard, gone to the ear. Man was frightened, and he has injury. Or maybe someone angry yell and noisy. When did it threatened to punish? Or some sounds, maybe not even very loud, preceded some traumatic event? For example, this is how the neighbors jump over the wall - something behind the wall louted deafly, and then you learned that someone fell, suffered, or maybe even died? Or maybe someone once scared you (or stigled) with some horror that sneaks, and first it is only audible?

Or vice versa - maybe you, for example, they were offended by school, sneak up behind, and something did not feel something. And you could not hear about the danger approach in advance, because the circle was noisy? And now listen personally to each rustle?

Try to dig in memory - can you find any such events in the past? If it turns out, then it is easily easily. You have a logical thinking. (And the logic is very well treated with fears.) You can talk to yourself with yourself, that now no one else is sinking for you. And no one offends you, and no one is yelling at you, and not noise, and does not move from knocking on the table to throw furniture and people. Or that there you scarecrow - it is no longer dangerous, or this is not even more in your life. Maybe it will help?

And also - well, when you are not sitting in complete silence. And you do not need to be "white noise" to join something. Turn on something interesting. There is such a trick - there are many types of activities that can be combined with listening to audiobooks or viewing of the series. At the same time, the serials can often do not look, because there they quickly think that there is someone, and further to listen to the dialogs. But you have to find yourself something that you like and interesting. For example, where you like the dialogues. And then include this series or book - not very loud. Do not try to move the neighbors. And to do so that it can be heard, but it was necessary to listen with some effort what was happening there. Then "all your ears will go there", i.e. The rest will be missing attention.

In the evening, when everything gets quieter, you need to do everything that you are turned on, hiding. (Most and so they instinctively do, because the general background decreases, and the person himself does not want to interfere with anyone, and he himself seems even louder to him.) So for your night, maybe it will be something very quiet . And many specialists p lately write that they are not at all shamefully under it all fall asleep. If you with such a "concrete" under the ear calmer.

Sometimes, by the way, the sounds can be "drowning" not only sounds. For example, some better hear in the dark. (Because there are no other stimuli.) Try to leave the included any dim lamp that does not interfere especially. Maybe due to her hearing will decrease (because there are other experiences that occupy brain reserves). Or maybe (again) you find out that you with complete darkness everything somehow scares. So sleep in incomplete darkness, until the nervous system calms down, and it does not have to sleep well and deaf.

I have no more ideas yet, how to calm the scope of the brain, and distract it from the fact that he hears too carefully. It would be very nice if these my thoughts somehow helped you. And even better it would be if the readers had yet tips!
And you, if somehow cope with this problem - share with us? Because I think you are not alone, and many people who would like to stop so much to hear the world around.

Oh, these noisy neighbors, the walls of Sunday in the morning. And loud music, and screams ... Well, not to drink because of this every day Valerian! How to stop nervous because of noisy neighbors? Accurate tips, how not to pour, gives the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.

Low stress resistance

The main cause of experiences due to noisy neighbors and in general in the slightest occasion is low stress resistance. Internet healers and psychologists offer to stop worrying and increase it with a variety of practices, meditations and drugs to strengthen the nervous system. All this has an impact only on the consequences of the problem.

The psyche, all the time loaded with the containment of internal pain and dissatisfaction, loses stability. The stock of the strength is missing to cope even with a small stress. A sufficiently small pressure is sudden noise, and calm disappears. Life seems unbearable even because of noisy neighbors.

Suffer fears? Can't calm down before the exam? At work with difficulty restrain, not to shout? And at home not to relax because of noisy neighbors? This is a sign of the psyche about internal problems. The fact that natural talents are not fully used, and desires are not embodied.

How to stop nervous because of noisy neighbors and feel the joy of life

Man born for happiness. He wants to enjoy life every minute and stop worrying because of noisy neighbors. To achieve pleasure, a man is given desire. As well as the properties of the psyche and the bodies necessary for the successful implementation of these desires. The more often the person is enjoyable, the steady of the psyche and the above stress resistance.

There are simple pleasures (for example, food), but also enjoying them fleeting. But the completed work, mental or physical, brings a deeper and long-term satisfaction, helps become calm.

According to Yuri Burlan at the training "System-vector psychology", the owners of various vectors will help various ways to distract and stop worrying due to noisy neighbors. It will not increase the stress resistance for a long time, but will be the first step, will give a temporary respite to gather with thoughts.

Step One: Stop nervous and worry

For an organized and flexible person with a skin vector, a running or lesson in a dance class will become an excellent means against stress. Sport classes fill the brain endorphins and help you spend time with health benefits.

The solid and serious owners of the anal vector will help to find a balance and no longer nervous due to noisy neighbors - fishing or family trip to the cottage. Any needlework or care of indoor plants is suitable. In general, everything that requires attention and concentration. This is an excellent chance to transfer your knowledge and experience to children.

Independent and thoughtful owners of the sound vector are more often affected because of the noisy neighbors due to the special sensitivity of the hearing. Yes, sensitive hearing and focusing in the senses make up the basis of the sound of sound. The concert of classical music is a holiday for his ears and sensual pleasure for the limitless universe of his inner world. And at night it may be useful for earplugs.

Step two: We increase stress resistance

Any irritation to the world arises due to improper assessment of the situation. We suffer because of misunderstanding themselves and ignorance of our own desires. But even more suffering brings total misunderstanding of others and ineffective interaction with them.

You can experience joy for noisy neighbors from above, which the third day walk the wedding? Can! Even if by 7.00 to work. You can also admire the turbulent game and screams of children at the site, remembering himself at this age. To do this, you need quite a bit - to understand yourself. Understand the difference from others.

Life gives a person thousands of opportunities to become happy. Do not cost her alarm and experience because of noisy neighbors. Awareness of innate properties and desires, the incarnation of which fills life with joy, involuntarily arises at the training "System and Vector Psychology" Yuri Burlan. The stable result of the training is to gain stress resistance in any situations, even in the conditions of real hostilities. This is confirmed by the results of people from Donetsk and Lugansk, who passed the training:

"... from the results - first of all I can say, has become a much more balanced person: if before I could in some situations a mistake of myself ugly and wrong, for example, to arrange a rapidly different hysteria or a long time and sullen on someone to be offended, then Now adequately react to all external stimuli. As a result, I have improved relationships with relatives and loved ones. I know how to avoid quarrels with them, and in cases, if the quarrel still happens, I can negotiate myself so as not to exacerbate the situation, as it was usually, but, on the contrary, to align it ... I can say that I have stopped fierce nerves. In addition, I began to feel much more confident in communicating with people ... "
Anastasia M., Linguist St. Petersburg

"... Relationships with others have improved ... I began to understand people ... and even justify them ... Nerves came to normal ... I stopped angry without reason ... Relations with your beloved opened with a completely different side ... a lot of everything else, which I don't remember now ..."
Cyril W., Kazan

"... From a hot-tempered person, I turned into a calm, it became harder to bring me out of myself, I was missing irritability ..."
Andrey G., Arkhangelsk

Make it easier not to be nervous in silence

It is a fact! But the world around is full of movement and is ready to reveal to you, bringing joy and satisfaction from the process of life. It is only worth listening to focus on what is happening around. And the free online training of Yuri Burlan "System-Vector Psychology" will tell you what to pay attention to.

The article is written using the materials of online trainings Yuri Burlan "System and Vector Psychology"

At that time, when I work on this material, there is a delivery of the room - and behind my designers are discussing the subtleties of politics, and the colleague is talking to the chef in the neighboring table. Focus in such conditions is simply inconceivable! But it repeats every month. I suffered a year, and then I realized that it would not change, and now I recently bought headphones with big "ears" in order not to interfere with others. Now I am writing, listening to the Bach. Honestly, I would prefer full silence, but since it is impossible, then I choose the second between the excited voices and the "musical offer".

Olga, 45 years

Conversation fellow travelers in the subway, barking dogs outside the window, party at the next country - all this instantly dismisses 36 years old love. "I am experiencing the strongest irritation," she admits. "This noise absorbs my thoughts, everything else for me does not cease to exist, and only this sound torture remains."

I have acute hearing

Different people perceive the sounds in different ways. Some of us do not burn off by the working jackhammer, and others turn the door from cotton.

"Some people have an aggravated hearing," the otolaryngologist Elena Fedotova explains. - This phenomenon is called hyperactus, or increased acute hearing. Their inner ear is developed stronger than others. But the sounds can deliver strong discomfort, annoy and even cause pain and those who have ear, on the contrary, weakened. "

I feel my defenselessness

"The sound that we" did not order "may be involuntarily perceived as the invasion of our inner territory, as a threat to our peace of mind or lifestyle, explains the family psychologist Inna Chiffanova. - He launches in us the physiological response "Run or fight".

Pulse and breathing are rapidly, muscles are involuntarily strained, sweating increases. Our attention is concentrated on the source of danger - it is also part of our instinctive program, so it is so difficult for us to distract from this sound. " If at the same time we can neither run away or fight, then we are experiencing this situation as a state of complete helplessness. It is enhanced if the sounds cause unpleasant associations.

"We particularly annoy those of them that we associate with the system of values," the psychotherapist and neurobiologist Beatris Milletr notices. So, an elderly person, most likely, will hardly take out rap, which listens to the grandson. The grandson can annoy the record of songs Ruslanov.

According to the psychotherapist, this trend is generally characteristic of our era: "We live in society developing in an individualistic direction much more than ever before. Everyone believes that the world should adapt to him. "

I am publishing a par

"When we are happy, it is difficult for us to bring out of themselves and many interference we do not even notice," Reminds Inna Chiffanov. - However, if we are tired, disappeared or difficult to achieve an internal equilibrium, an extraneous sound is able to knock us out of the rut. And the irritation that we experience on this occasion is absorbing the energy of our discontent everyone else. "

The paradox is that the same situation gives us a chance to regain your faith in your strength - expressing your anger or at any time to protect against unwanted noise.

What to do?

Visit otolaryngologist

"Increased sensitivity to noise can be a symptom of a starting deafness," Elena Fedotova warns. She advises to pass the survey, and also emphasizes the importance of a careful attitude towards hearing: "Too loud music, work under conditions of constant noise of an elevated level can damage the inner ear, and it is not restored." As you know, it is better to prevent than treat.

Think over defense

"Try creating a suitable sound environment for yourself, change it depending on the mood and moment, - offers Beatrice Milletr. "Choose a pleasant music, put a disk with the sounds of nature, use double glasses and even plugs for the ears."

Consider context

"We react to the situation as a whole, and not just a specific incentive," Stupid Schifanov emphasizes. - Howl car alarm under the windows will annoy you much more if you just drove into this apartment and found a lot of flaws in it than if you live there for a long time and in addition you sympathize with your neighbor to which the car belongs. Rehend to your irritation how to analyze the situation and think about what and how to change for the better. "